Getting stuck in a love triangle can be hot and gushy if you live in a movie. I mean, it’s hard not to watch the Twilight series or follow the complications between Elena and the Salvatore brothers and not feel like these ladies have things going for them. Sadly, life is not a movie script. It is hard enough to keep one partner, but getting caught in a web between two people? That’s real stress!
For one, you could come out hurt and emotionally drained. True story.
I have seen lots of girls who were so hyped about being courted by two guys but because of indecision and playing them both, they lost the two of them as friends and as dating companions. So if you are currently stuck in any such scenario, here a few thoughts that might help.
Find out who you really want
This is a decision that should be made at the beginning. What do you want out of a relationship, or out of life? Find out who you have feelings for, but remember it’s more than feelings. Where are you heading to? Who is kinder? Things like that because love is also practical. Interestingly, you might not even like any of them. It might just be the thrill of the chase but be sure of your decision.
Don’t play with Emotions
Don’t pick one partner today and tomorrow go to the other partner, toying with their emotions as you try to find out what you want. Make your choice as early as possible. It is better to be on neutral ground so you can see things objectively.
This might be hard at that time with all the curveballs being thrown but always be honest with yourself, communicate how you really feel to all involved and if you don’t just have feelings for one, make yourself known firmly.
Avoid making assumptions
Don’t assume that they’re aware of your feelings from the way you act, have a one on one discussion and tell them your decision, not letting it get too far on the assumption that you have already made your choice. It’s very tempting to let it go on and on but that makes it a lot harder on everyone involved.
Make peace with the fact that you might lose a friend because of the choice you made and that’s okay. Love matters can be some deep and murky waters and it shouldn’t be made more complicated by unnecessary drama. Love triangles are not always fun for the scorned party so it’s best to get it over with as soon as possible.