Last year was a big year for a lot of people in the love department. Yes! Imagine being in the middle of a novel pandemic and thinking of love…I cannot relate! Just kidding! It was actually amazing to witness.
Some people figured out that the current partners were not “the one,” while some met entirely new people and started something new and fresh all during a weird year. And then, some people actually realized that they couldn’t live without their current partners. That’s why at the end of the year, there were so many “my view, his view” stories. And a lot more proposals.
Making it your life’s mission to find a match
It can be stressful and nearly impossible as a young woman in a highly patriarchal society and world to not have “finding a partner” in your to-do list. Like a shopping list that must have everything ticked off before a certain time in life. So, we find ourselves so focused on looking for the perfect person for us. Looking a certain way, acting a certain way, doing things that we will look back on in five years and cringe, or not going for things we truly want, just to get hitched. We start to make our lives tailored to someone we haven’t even met, that we actually forget to live!
Giving up your own life
My friends and I were talking about how we could live somewhere entirely different for a year. Settle in a European country, work remotely and use that as our travel year to see so much of the world, and do it while we are young. One of them however said that she wouldn’t be that person because “time catches up quickly” and so she would rather be in the best possible place to find a spouse as soon as possible. While that is a fine personal choice, it also should not be the sole aim of your existence. If you have always wanted to do something, do it. Don’t limit yourself, don’t stop living.
When you stop searching, you find what you are looking for
For those in their 20s, you are told that those are your selfish years. And I 100% agree. I’m not against marriage, though my articles may sound like that sometimes. I am just of the opinion that when you live life, make yourself the main character, and be the woman you think you can be; you are even more radiant, you exude a confidence that only you can create, and attract the type of partner you actually want to be with.
Live a little
So, this is my encouragement to live a little. A person that does not live for themselves will always keep looking for validation in others. If you live for yourself, you are able to stop making excuses for sub-par partners and actually find a worthy partner to share your already amazing life, dreams and personal goals.